What Do You Have To Lose (VIDEO)

 

Have you ever finished second on a job interview? Here’s an idea for something that you can do and maybe you’ll win it later!

Summary

I have a great idea can be helpful to many of you.

Never lose our job? You were beaten out. The manager agonized, but chose the other person. It happens. Have you really wanted that job? Yeah, and it's a disappointment when you lose out. Here's my idea.

It's not like you are incompetent. It's not that you are a loser. I just of the other person market themselves better than you. Maybe they interview better. Maybe they presented better.

Sometimes, there is a single buyer's remorse where an employer winds up deciding a few months later, "I really wish I had that other person."

2 months after you the job has been closed down, after you been turned down, put a little reminder on your calendar and contact the recruiter who presented you (if you are present. The buyer recruiter) or contact the manager directly.

Say, "I! How are you? How's the new person working out?" You keep your mouth shut. "They are doing great!" "I just want to know how much I enjoyed meeting with you and how interested I was in that role. I took a chance that maybe this person wasn't working out so I thought I would reach out to you." It's a great tactic

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and leadership coaching.

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions. 

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The Case for “The Desperate Job Hunter”


Employers and agency recruiters often treat certain job hunters as annoying. They aren’t. They are doing something that employers and agency recruiters say they want.

NOTE: I no longer do recruiting.

Summary

This video is a very simple one. It is about the insanity that you, representing a corporation for job hunters through, or you as an agency recruiter per job hunters through that I think is just goofy. Let me just lay it out for you. Let me use a story for myself.

When I was dating my wife, I had been trained and conditioned in a variety of ways to be an "attentive date." To care for what might be thought, to set up a nice evening for us… You know, be a good date Her response to that was, "Whoa! This is too much for me!"

For you representing the hiring organization or you representing an agency, let's look at the comparable thing . Job hunters have been trained to demonstrate that they are interested in the job. How does a job hunter really do that? Well, they respond to your calls, they send emails, on the interview, they talk about their interest. There are lots of different cues the job hunter were supposed to respond to and demonstrate their interest.

Sometimes, you folks respond to the frequent phone calls of follow-ups (you haven't given any real data. You just tell them that yoga back to them when you're ready to make a decision) and they are supposed to demonstrate continued interest. You basically treat this as an annoyance. Does it really make a lot of sense? Let's think about it. You want job hunters to be interested in your role, but not too interested. You want them to be kind of like my wife.

You want them to say, "(Said robotically) I am interested in the job," and then go away. And you think that's interest. Of course it isn't. And you wouldn't think it was interested they behave that way. They do what they do because the system tells them that they are supposed to show continued interest by following up with phone calls and sending periodic emails in the face of lack of consideration the most of you offer the job hunter. After all, you've led them to believe that you are ready to hire by interviewing them once, twice, 3 times… And then you leave them waiting to become anxious.

Maybe the anxiety is a tactic to make them want to job, but I don't think most of you thinking that way. I think that is the impact of your behavior, leaving them sitting there hoping that it is them that you choose. You leave them waiting for so long, building up their anxiety, so that they always check in to show that they are still interested.

Let's look at the game and how YOU'VE constructed it. For agency recruiters, I know you are the one who is the messenger or non-messenger for your client. I know your client is giving you nothing to really say. After a while it's hard to pick up the phone and say, "Nothing new. Nothing is changed since we spoke last." It's a week later and nothing is changed and the candidates started to lose interest in becoming fearful. They call the next week. "Nothing new." I understand the client is being ridiculous. If you challenge the client, you risk losing them by pissing them off. I get but also understand where the job applicant is coming from.

By the way, you guys create the results that you get. The result is the frequent phone calls. The fact that there is no new information, even if you as a corporate recruiter say to the job hunter, "I know we have gone a little bit longer than we expected. We expect to get this tied up by . . . " Even if that they slips a day or 2, you are okay. You've communicated something.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and business life coaching. He is the host of “Job Search Radio,” “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.”

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching from me?  Email me at JeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us and put the word, “Coaching” in the subject line.

Do you have a quick question you would like me to answer? Pay $50 via PayPal to TheBigGameHunter@gmail.com  

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedIn. Like me on Facebook.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle for $.99 and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.”

Getting Out of No Man’s Land

4 Steps (PLUS One Preferred One) to Making Important Changes

Although many will be surprised to read this, if there is one thing I have learned over time is that if given an opportunity to procrastinate, I will take it on important things. My first book took 15 years to write. I file for extensions for my taxes. I arrive on time but at the last minute for many things.

I have been working on a model for making changes in my behavior and Getting Out of No Man's Landmy aspirations. It includes Simon Sinek’s breakthrough question and a few ideas that have coalesced with time. I don’t believe this model is useful unless you are working on something important to you. Otherwise, it will feel like another item on your to do list.

It will start with the courage to change and the willingness to pay the Getting Out of No Man's Landprice to make change. After all, if it was easy to do, you would have done it already. Obviously, there is something blocking you, some emotional boogeyman that interferes with you taking the necessary steps.

Ah! You think you can trump that all with the “I don’t have time” card. That is one of the classic lies we tell ourselves. After all, if I told you that when you finished the project or accomplished what you wanted to, I would present you with a check for $25 million, almost everyone would find the time. We just make choices to fall prey to our fears or inertia.

Here’s what I want you to do:

Step 1. Answer this question: What do you want to be?

I don’t care what you want to do. I want you to think about what you want to be. The “doing” will follow if you can remember how to dream again.

Step 2. Sinek’s big question . . . Why?

Why do you really want to do that? Writing my first book was important because I wanted to overcome a fear I had of writing a book and being seen as an author. Why do you want to do? What’s so important to you about this?

If you are like most people, once you start thinking about why you are procrastinating about this, you will touch on the fear boogeyman towering over the entire effort, sitting on your shoulder screaming in your ear. The lesson we have to learn here is that the voice in your head is a liar. It is scared that you may fail so it proactively sabotages you into failure so your excuse is built in.

Step 3. Do something to move the needle this week.

Do something to advance yourself in the direction you aspire. If need be, put it into your calendar. It can be 5 minutes or 30 minutes or 2 hours. Just do something. The ideal approach is to do something daily. Think about it. If you wrote for 30 minutes daily, you would be investing 182 hours annually to writing a book. If you wrote for one hour, it is the equivalent of 2 and a half weeks invested in your book, movie or fitness regime.

Step 4. Review how you did.

I want you to do a review where you see how you did and review it without any judgement or accountability. Did you do what you set out to do or did life get in the way as it sometimes does. What could you have done differently? Did the boogeyman win this week? What tactics could you have used to get things done that you wanted to do, instead of succumbing to the boogeyman and it’s fear.

I made the point of saying to do your review without “accountability.” Accountability is something that has been weaponized by school and Getting Out of No Man's Landbusiness into something that feels like punishment.

“You didn’t finish your homework; you lose 50% of your grade on day 1. Another 50% on day 2 and get a zero on day 3.” Ouch!

You didn’t finish the project we charged you with doing (without any input from you) on time or within budget. Your salary increase, review and, perhaps, even your job are now at risk as a result of your failure. That is the corporate version of accountability.

Drop accountability from your personal vocabulary. It feels like punishment because you have been trained to think of it as sitting in a police precinct with bright lights shining in your eyes going through an inquisition that feels accusatory.

Just conduct a review and see how you did and what you learned from it. Do it both when you are doing well AND when you aren’t. You are learning something under both circumstances.

Repeat.

I promised you one optional step in the process, yet it is probably the hardest one for most adults to do. That’s why I ask you to think of it as optional

Step 5. See if you can have some fun (or introduce the spirit of play into the activity) while doing it.

From the time we got into the school system, “the fun” has been ground out of us. “This is serious! It will count for 50% of your grade! This will affect your ability to (get into college/get a good job/keep your job/avoid being fired)” Is it any wonder that many of us (particularly you men) stopped laughing years ago.

I don’t know how it was for you but when I was small and before I was beaten into submission by “The Evil Twins” (school and work), I used to laugh a lot more and feel good. I also got a lot done and learned a lot, too. Try having fun or playing while doing it each week.

Yet it starts with courage . . . the courage to change. Courage will require that you be authentic with your true nature, being of service to the world by sharing your true gifts and talents, truthful about who you really are, share your heart and be effective.

If you struggle doing this, hire a coach to help you.

A lifetime is not a long time. Time is running out for you in this life. Let’s get into the arena.

 

 

© The Big Game Hunter, Inc. Asheville, NC  2017

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for Jeff Altman, The Big Game HunterNoBSCoachingAdvice.com. He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” “No BS Job Search Advice,” and “Job Search Radio.”

Are you interested in my coaching you?  Email me at JeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us and put the word, “Coaching” in the subject line.

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The Lies We Tell Ourselves | The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast

A coaching call with someone reminds me and perhaps you of how destructive the lies we tell ourselves can be.

Summary

I want to talk with you today about the lies you tell yourself.

One thing I know about most people, there are exceptions because, Lord knows, there are sociopaths out there, that we try to be remarkably honest their relationships with friends, family and the world at large. We try to be honest with coworkers. We try to do our best. We try to communicate accurately, ably.

Then there is the part where we talk to ourselves and then those voices within our head tell us lies. Lies that we took on from other people.

I was talking with someone today who is telling himself the long way that he could not make any money. That he was "financially unable." What happened. As we spoke about, his father had had that struggle. His father had expressed the time and again that "if only she and her brother had done something differently, he wouldn't have to agonize and be frustrated" and all that kind of stuff. Out of care for her father, she took on the line that maybe she should make any money.

What lies have you taken on? What messages do you give to yourself that are pure fiction that are coming out of an episode from earlier in your life where out of care for someone or a misinterpretation of the message, you are hurting yourself.

Think about.

You are hurting yourself by taking on these messages that are just pure fiction.

You can start working on this by yourself by saying, " Ah! That's interesting! Is that 1 of those voices?" Or 1 of those interruptions the causes you to question the voice. You can also work with a coach. Me, of course, were someone else That will help you dissected and help you work in different directions.

If you're interested my coaching you one-on-one, email me at jeffaltman@thebiggamehunter.us and in the subject line, put the phrase, "I'm hearing voices.". I will know what it is about, get back to you and schedule an initial conversation. The 1st 15 minutes of conversation free then we schedule additional time.

I would love to help you.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for JobSearchCoachingHQ.com and NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” “No BS Job Search Advice,” and “Job Search Radio.”

Are you interested in my coaching you?  Email me at JeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us and put the word, “Coaching” in the subject line.

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Tell Me About a Crappy Job You’ve Had | No BS Job Search Advice Radio

EP 826 Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter explains the intent behind this question and how to answer it.

Summary

Today's tough interview is it really a tough one but you have to understand how not to hurt yourself in the interview and how to really address this well.. The question is, "Tell me about a crappy job you have."

This question should not be answered by reflecting on a job that you had when you are an adult. The best way to answer this is by talking about something that you had as a teen, something that you didn't really care for and the lessons that you learned from that job. For example, if you went back to that time when you were a teen boy and spoke about working construction or were an assistant on a UPS truck. Or, in my case, a job that I had at the New York City Department of Finance as an intern, moving boxes all day. You may talk about that time at the nail salon where you are dealing with all the chemicals... whatever it is, the simplest way to address the lessons learned is in appreciation for the value of education and appreciation for the circumstances that you have.

After all, there are people who do the kind of work day in and day out. It is a self reflective type of answer, rather than spending a lot of time talking about how awful it was there. If you go down that path, all that does is make yourself into a complainer or a whiner. That is not the goal here.

The goal is to quickly describe the situation that you found yourself in here and that you basically learn that there are people who have it worse than human life. You may talk about volunteering in a third world country. Maybe you did with missionary work there; you love the helping but you had a chance to look around at how hard life is.

Whatever it is, just think in terms of being self reflective as you answer the question.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and business life coaching. He is the host of “Job Search Radio,” “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.”

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching from me?  Email me at JeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us and put the word, “Coaching” in the subject line.

Do you have a quick question you would like me to answer? Pay $50 via PayPal to TheBigGameHunter@gmail.com  

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

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