Body Language Mistakes– The Dour Look (VIDEO)

EP 733 Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter discusses this disturbing body language mistake too many people make.

Summary

Let's talk about 1 of those body language mistakes that by itself is not critical but has an adverse impact. That adverse impact is that even if they make you an offer, you can wind up costing you money. What's that thing that you're doing that might be expensive? What's that thing that you might be doing that could cost to the higher? It is lack of smiling that has an adverse impact.

I'm so the not suggesting that you signature interview with a goofy look on your face and say things like, "Wow! Everything is wonderful!" Nor am I suggesting that the entire interview should be done with a smile. At least in US culture, a person who smiles is seen as being self-confident. Appropriate smiling through out an interview suggests self-confidence. It suggests that you know what you're talking about or it that you're enjoying what the interviewer is saying or that you're enjoying what is going on.

It shouldn't be a pained smile or a big silly smile. You wanted to appear natural with the situation so that if you are listening to someone who is saying something slightly amusing you can have a range of smiles the illustrate your pleasure. Understand that firms don't just want to hire people who are competent to do the job. There are also trying to get a feel for you as a person and how you will fit in.

At least how it is in US centric culture, for most firms and there are obvious exceptions, they are also looking at people who they like personally as well as being competent. That's because firms have choices of competent people, right? So part of the way that you can stand out is with a smile. It is by enjoying yourself. It is by letting people know that you are a likable individual, rather than being perpetually dour.

You know – – looking sad or pained. Think of expressions like that.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and business life coaching.

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Body Language Mistakes– The Dour Look | No BS Job Search Advice Radio

EP 733 Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter discusses this disturbing body language mistake too many people make.

Summary

Let's talk about 1 of those body language mistakes that by itself is not critical but has an adverse impact. That adverse impact is that even if they make you an offer, you can wind up costing you money. What's that thing that you're doing that might be expensive? What's that thing that you might be doing that could cost to the higher? It is lack of smiling that has an adverse impact.

I'm so the not suggesting that you signature interview with a goofy look on your face and say things like, "Wow! Everything is wonderful!" Nor am I suggesting that the entire interview should be done with a smile. At least in US culture, a person who smiles is seen as being self-confident. Appropriate smiling through out an interview suggests self-confidence. It suggests that you know what you're talking about or it that you're enjoying what the interviewer is saying or that you're enjoying what is going on.

It shouldn't be a pained smile or a big silly smile. You wanted to appear natural with the situation so that if you are listening to someone who is saying something slightly amusing you can have a range of smiles the illustrate your pleasure. Understand that firms don't just want to hire people who are competent to do the job. There are also trying to get a feel for you as a person and how you will fit in.

At least how it is in US centric culture, for most firms and there are obvious exceptions, they are also looking at people who they like personally as well as being competent. That's because firms have choices of competent people, right? So part of the way that you can stand out is with a smile. It is by enjoying yourself. It is by letting people know that you are a likable individual, rather than being perpetually dour.

You know – – looking sad or pained. Think of expressions like that.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and business life coaching.

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.

START YOUR 7 DAY FREE TRIAL

Connect with me on LinkedIn

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle for $.99 and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.”

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

Are you interested in executive job search coaching, leadership coaching or life coaching from me?  Email me at JeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us and put the word, “Coaching” in the subject line.

Body-Language-Mistakes

Body Language Mistakes | No BS Job Search Advice Radio

Ep 638 Things can wrong fast if you make any (or all) of these mistakes. 

 

Summary

Body language is often misunderstood by job hunters who think it is a way to hypnotize people into hiring them for jobs that they are not qualified for. Follow the pen. You're getting drowsier and drowsier! You get the idea. It doesn't work that way.

The way it works is that your behaviors are either congruent in emphasizing the points that you are trying to make or incongruent. And, as a result, you turn off people. I'm using 2 exaggerations. The 1st 1 is congruent; the 2nd 1 is incongruent. I may be speaking very calmly but time flailing my arms to illustrate incongruent behavior. I want to highlight a few of these behaviors that you just need to be aware of so that in this way, you don't shoot yourself in the foot and hurt your candidacy.

The 1st one is fidgeting. Have you ever talk to just someone who is bouncing around, they're just all over the place and they're just driving you crazy by fidgeting all the time? Fidgeting is a turnoff. Don't do it. If you're feeling nervous, better to use your hands to emphasize points, but never block your face.

The next thing is what is called pointing or chopping. It they are hard, demonstrative gestures that really want to be exaggerating what you are saying versus something that I use all the time when I speak, using your hands to emphasize things. Never go across your face under any circumstances. Never should your hands frame in your face. There are very few circumstances (and most of you would feel comfortable exercising them). Don't do the strong exaggerated kinds of things that look too aggressive.

Your posture needs to appear confident.. Rather than sitting in the chair hunched over looking bored and disinterested, or the reverse, appearing too cocky and looking as though you don't have a care in the world and the person who you're talking with is an idiot, just be aware of your posture because both extremes can be costly.

You don't want to break, eye contact and talk every which way. If the person is profoundly ugly, you want to talk to either the immediate left side and right side of their face. You want to appear as though you are maintaining eye contact, even when you are. You want to do it with one stipulation – – you don't want to look as though you are staring. People who stare look like they are crazy. No one wants to hire a crazy person who was staring at them. The one who looks like they are never going to blink.

The last one I'm going to bring up is keeping your arms folded. More often than not, folding your arms is done by individuals who are "closed" or, "withdrawn." Sometimes it is done by people who are overweight and find it hard to sit in the chair. Rather than do that, again, keep your hands in front of you or to the side framing your body, that will go a long way toward avoiding being misunderstood.

Again, being hired isn't done because because you've done or not done this. You need to have the skills to do the job and create trust and rapport with the interviewer that you are the solution to what they are looking for. However, if your behavior is a turnoff, there is no way you're going to get a job.

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Body Language Won’t Get You Hired

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter encourages you to NOT overemphasize your body language preparation when you interview.

Summary

I think a lot of job hunters spend way too much time focusing on body language. It’s as though if they mirror the body language of the interviewer, that person will just simply turn around and magically hire them! Nothing could be further from the truth.

The fact of the matter is, whether you mirror the body language, mirror the speech of the interviewer, or doing the tricks people think they are learning to manipulate an interviewer, you’re not going to get hired.

I can tell you what won’t get you hired from body language. And that is if you are in an interview and you make some ridiculous gestures to copy the interviewer, that is to get you hired.

Frankly it’s gross.

You can mirror body language to your hearts content but the fact is if you can’t answer questions, you won’t be hired.

You can sit with your arms folded in front of you and get hired. And I want to encourage it because even the most beginner interviewer looks at that and views you as being shut down, closed off, detached… Nothing complementary about that.

I encourage people to speak with their hands as long as they are not so demonstrative that they are flashing all over the place. If anything, if you speak with your hands, and you use them as emphasis points, never go across the middle of the your chin. Do nothing to cross the facial line.

When all is said and done, what is going to get you hired is whether you can answer questions well and demonstrate enthusiasm, power, passion and self-confidence. That more than anything is going to get you hired.

There are a few little tricks I’ll give you:

The first one is that when you shake hands, use a firm handshake but make eye contact with the interviewer. A smile on your face when you shake hands goes a long way toward breaking down the walls between you and the interviewer.

I know culturally with some people, who are raised to be polite, and not make eye contact, this is US-centric advice. Different cultures and different nations have different beliefs.

If you are interviewing in the US, I contact, firm handshake and a smile on your face goes a long way toward starting the interview off well.

Some people believe you should be sitting upright and leaning slightly forward like an obedient schoolchild hoping to be called on in class. I don’t encourage that. I prefer that you sit comfortably in his seat with one leg crossed over the other properly (you will know what I mean by that), and confidently answering questions.

From there you can use your hands to confidently emphasize points as you answer questions.From there you can go point by point by point pretty easily. You should try to stay away from your face and eliminate distracting gestures because they stop listening and start watching what you’re doing. By not paying attention, they tune you out.

Do you think employers are trying to help you? You already know you can’t trust recruiters—they tell as they think you need to know to take the job they after representing so they collect their payday.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter has been a career coach and recruiter for what seems like one hundred years.

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com is there to change that with great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.

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Stupid Interview Mistakes #8: Body Language Mistakes

 

In this video, Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter discusses two body language mistakes that happen much too often.

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