Body language is often misunderstood by job hunters who think this is a way to hypnotize people into hiring them for jobs are not qualified for (Follow the pen. You are getting drowsy and drowsier). It doesn’t work that way.
Your behavior is either congruent and emphasizes the points that you are trying to make or in-congruent and, as a result, you turn off people. In one example, I might be speaking very calmly yet flailing my arms. I want to highlight a few of the behaviors you might engage in so that you become aware of them and don’t shoot yourself in the foot and damaged candidacy.
The 1st one is fidgety. Have you ever spoken to some of his just bouncing around, all over the place, and they are just driving you crazy! Fidgeting is a turnoff. Be conscious of when you might do it and stop! If you are feeling nervous, It is better to use your hands to emphasize points, but never block your face.
The next one is what’s called in the business pointing or chopping– – Hard, demonstrative gestures that really wind up exaggerating what you are saying versus emphasizing things with your hands. Never go across your face with your hands under any circumstances. You shouldn’t use your hands to frame your face (There are very few circumstances where someone can get away doing that). Instead, keep your gestures lower if you’re going to use your hands to emphasize points. Don’t do the strong aggressive things to emphasize what you are saying and risk turning people off by feeling threatened.
Your posture needs superior confident. Rather than sitting in a chair hunched over, slumping over in the chair looking bored and disinterested, or the reverse, appearing to cocky, looking as though you don’t have a care in the world sitting with one arm over the back of the chair and treating the person that you speaking with as though they are an idiot, be aware of your posture because both extremes can be costly.
You don’t want to break eye contact and just talk every which way; you always want to appear as though you are maintaining eye contact. In doing so, you can’t look like you are staring. People who appear to be staring are received as though they are crazy. No one wants to hire a crazy person who is staring at them.You know, like the one who never looks like they are going to blink.
If the person is profoundly ugly, talk to just the right or just the left side of their face. Most people will be able to tell that you’re not looking them in the eye.
The last one I’m going to bring up is keeping your arms folded. The way keeping your arms fall that is interpreted is that you are closed or withdrawn, or, if you are overweight it is hard to sit in the chair, I know, there is a tendency to fold arms in front of you. Instead, keep your arms in fern of you or to the sides, framing your body. That will go a long way toward dispelling what could be a misinterpretation of what you are communicating.
Again, being hired will be because you’ve done this, but because you have the skills to do the job and have created trust and rapport with the interviewer that you are the solution to what they are looking for. However, if your behavior is a turnoff, there is no way you’re going to get the job.
Do you think employers are trying to help you? You already know you can’t trust recruiters—they tell as they think you need to know to take the job they after representing so they collect their payday.
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