I have started to have 2nd thoughts about my new job. Is this a common occurrence?
The question for today is:
Is it common to experience buyer’s remorse after you accept and start a new job
Yes. I can’t be more direct with you than that. The reason often has nothing to do with the new employer. It has to do with you and unrealistic expectations you have about what it’s going to be like working at the new position.
What often happens is that you have idealized notions of what the job is going to be like, of what the people are going to be like (and I want to emphasize this one) , particularly if you are an experienced person who has worked at one organization for a long time. This, in particular happens all the time.
You have to get crystal clear about what to expect after you join. Find out what a typical day is like. Meet with some of your future coworkers and asked them about what it’s going to be like working there. Even then, you may place a halo around this firm, but they are just a bunch of people with idiosyncrasies that a bunch of people have. You know, like there are people there who are going to say dumb things. They are going to be people there who are not going to do what they say they are going to do. They will have a whole host of foibles. That is a part of being human.
You are going to go there and, suddenly, Richard is going to become annoying to you because he tell you to your face one thing and does something completely different, just like at the old firm! Or that the be just 1 of those quirks that people have with the refrigerator in the company’s kitchen that just sets you off.
Whatever it is, it is a very common occurrence that people have a sense of buyer’s remorse after they start a new job.
What you do is 1 of several things:
You can determine what you need to do to change your own mind because weird things will happen at every place that you work.
Another thing is to recognize that these are just people with the common conditions of people.
Those are the 2 basic things. There are few other nuanced things as well. In addition, you can always change jobs again. After all, if the problem is your boss or your boss’s boss who is picking on you and harassing you “trying to help you do a better job.” You can of course change jobs again. You don’t have to put up with this.
But it is common.
Do you think employers are trying to help you?
You already know you can’t trust recruiters—they tell you as much as they think you need to know to take the job they after representing so they collect their payday.
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