Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter discusses the emotional side of job hunting and encourages you to get support.
Today's show i him him him s about the emotional side of job hunting, how touchy you may be, how frustrated you may be and not even be conscious of it.
For many of you, job hunting is harder than it needs to be. However, let's work with the premise that you are in the middle of this slog and you are trying your best, and all that is happening is that you are hitting your head against the wall or nothing is happening for you fast enough. Your impatience is working its way under your skin. These are pretty common responses to the process of jobhunting.
Your anxiety is higher. You feel tense. You may not amount. When all is said and done, you may find yourself testy. The people that you love, care for, your family, a lot of individuals around you may start walking on eggshells because they are afraid to set you off.
There are way too many of the people who been out of work too long. Who killed their families and then kill themselves. I'm surely not suggesting that you are in that boat, but it is indicative of the emotional side of job search, how much we have our identity wrapped up in our work and when it is taken away from us. Or, even if you are working, and you're trying to find something else. How frustrating the process can be when it just doesn't go your way.
Be aware that there's times where people are going to make suggestions to you. They are doing that because they are seeing things in your behavior or seeing things in what you are doing, where they think they can help you. I don't want you to push them away. If anything, I want you to be inclusive with them. Even if you think they are wrong. I want you to say, "Tell me more about that." Then listen and respond by saying, "You've given me a lot to think about and I don't want to respond right now because my instincts may not be working properly. Trust me, I am going to think about this and circle back to you."
Don't push anyone away. You never want to be pushing someone away under any circumstance and particularly in the job search circumstance, you want to have as many allies around you as possible to support you emotionally as part of research. If the advice you get is bad. I still want you to think people for taking the risk of talking with you about. It may be better than you think it is about. For now, let's assume that it is bad advice and you still want to thank them.
People may say that you are angry all the time. You are snapping at people. Well, you don't want to be snapping at people or feel angry all the time. You certainly don't want to respond by saying, "What do you mean by that?" It is a joke here, but when all is said and done what you want to be doing is taking in things from people, keeping them in your sphere of influence, inviting them in, encouraging them to support you.
Most job hunters don't fully appreciate the emotional side of jobhunting. They think that is soon as they start looking for work. The heavens will open up, they will instantly be successful and unfortunately it doesn't work that way. You need emotional support throughout your process.
Most of you don't know that I am trained as a psychotherapist so I can help you with the emotional side of your job search, as well as with the concrete things to be done.
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Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and leadership coaching.
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