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Stupid Interviewing Mistakes: Seeming Desperate | No BS Job Search Advice Radio

Ep 691 There’s something about desperation that is a turn off.


This is about 1 of those stupid interview job hunters make all the time. The mistake is appearing desperate.

Have you ever been on a date with someone who seem desperate? Women. Come on! You can't tell me you haven't been out with a guy who seem that way to you? They are just to (fill in the blank). They just come across as being too much. The result winds up being that you feel… I don't want to presume I know how you feel. I did not just simply say that in situations where I've been out with seemingly desperate women, it has not been a pleasant experience.

Women who appeared desperate, cross (in the mail vernacular) as stalkers; I suspect the same is true on the women's side... And worse. I'll just simply say that such behavior in dating doesn't work and it certainly doesn't work in job search.

If you go to an interview and appear to eager (excuse me if I mimic it), you come across as being, "Oh, boy! Oh yeah! THIS IS GREAT! SURE! YEAH! I'LL DO THAT! NO PROBLEM!"

Eventually, the hiring managerTakes a deep breath and goes, "what's with this person?"

Secant appear too eager. Yes, it is okay to be accommodating by your role is to relax. Deal with your future potential boss as a peer. In this way, they understand, and you understand what you are capable of doing for them. In this way, they can evaluate and assess you and see how you fit into their needs. Acting like the obedient schoolchild, sitting in your chair, leaning forward just doesn't work. It doesn't make you more attractive than other people. If anything makes you less appealing because at the end of the day. What you seem like is desperate. No one really likes "desperate."

So, relax. Follow my advice about the single best question to ask on any interview. Talk with them as an equal and explain how your background fits what they are looking for. Do it with confidence and self assurance because part of your job on an interview is to put their mind at ease and to demonstrate that you are the solution to a problem they have.

They need someone to do such and such. You want to talk about how you did for someone else before. In joining them, you don't want to just do that for the same 30 or 40 years of your life. You want to understand the upside for you because do you really want to do the same thing for the next 30 or 40 years? Of course not!

You always want to make sure that you ask questions about your potential future with the organization. If you don't like the answer, don't be a shmuck can take the job And blame them for what is happening to you. It's your fault.

Again, don't tag and don't appear desperate.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and leadership coaching. offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.


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