Being desperate is a turnoff in dating AND it’s a turnoff in job hunting.
On this show, I discuss “the stupid interviewing mistake” of seeming desperate and explain how to correct it.
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This one is about one of those stupid job hunting mistakes people make all the time. That mistake is appearing desperate.
Have you ever been on a date with some of you seem desperate? Now, women, you can’t tell me you haven’t been on a date with some of you seen that way to you somewhere in your life?
They just are too (fill in the blank). They are just too much. As a result, I would presume to know how you feel when you’re out with someone who seems desperate. I just know that in situations where I’ve been out with “desperate women,” it hasn’t been a pleasant experience.
Women who appeared desperate, in the male vernacular start appearing like “stalkers.”Act as though they are like stalkers.” I suspect the same is true on the women’s side… Or worse.
Such behavior doesn’t work in dating and it certainly doesn’t work and job search.
When you go to an interview and appears to eager, you start to act, “oh boy! This is great!! I’ll do that!” Eventually the hiring manager takes a deep breath and says to themselves, “what’s with this person?”
So you can appear too eager (it is okay to be accommodating, but not too eager).
So your job is to relax and to deal with your future bosses though they are a peer. In this way, they understand and do you understand what you are capable of doing for them. In this way, they can evaluate and assess you and see how you fit into their needs.
Acting like the obedience school trial, sitting in your chair, leaning forward (did you ever do that one when you were a kid), just doesn’t work. It doesn’t make you more attractive than other candidates; if anything, it makes you less appealing.
At the end of the day, what you seem like his desperate. No one really likes desperate. So, relax. Follow my advice about the single best question you should ask on any interview. Talk with them is an equal and explain how your background fits that which they are looking for. Do it with confidence and self-assurance because part of what your job is on an interview is to put their mind at ease and that you are the solution to a problem that they have.
They need someone to do such and such. You want to talk about how you did it for someone else before. In joining them, you don’t want to do this for the next 30 or 40 years of your life. You also want to understand the upside for you. After all, do you really want to do the same thing for the next three or four years? Of course not.
That’s why you always want to make sure that you ask questions about your potential future. And, if you don’t like the answer, don’t be a shmuck and take the job and then blame them for what is happening to you. It’s your fault then.
So, again, don’t bag and don’t appear desperate.
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