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False Choices

False Choices (VIDEO)

You are constantly being presented bad choices and told to pick between them. And you do. Why do you do it?



I don't care if you're looking for work or examining other places in your life, you are always presented with false choices. Should I choose A or B? Should I accept this job or that job? What about job opportunities and mediocre? Aren't you talking yourself into something

As you start weighing the pros and cons of each position, you say to yourself, "I don't like this. I don't like this other choice either." What he have to take other choice? What do you have to take the false choice j the ustrecruiter says you have to offer is you have to choose one?

I don't think so! And that's the way you are being sold to constantly. You go to the store and take a look at the things on the shelves of the supermarket and you're presented with 7 things and kind of go, "Ehhhhhhhhhhh . . . " And pick one. Why are you settling?

You don't have to settle. Life is more than just choosing between bad options. For those of you who are in the US, you live in the most incredible society imaginable.

You may have a home. A relationship. You may have a wife/partner/husband/kids . . . You have some good juju in the bank with yourself.

Then, someone comes along and says, "Here. You have 2 mediocre choices that you are not completely sold on. Choose between them."

Okay. I'm going to give you a third – – choice. Reject both.

I'm going to encourage you to have the guts to reject both bad choices. Both mediocre choices. You don't have to tolerate.

I want you to feel excited about your decisions, not motivated to make them but excited to make them. I want you to feel excited about making the decision, whether that is in job search, or other places in your life.

For you to start feeling successful in your life, you're going to have to look back and start feeling life was worthwhile, you made good choices that serve you and your family, that leads you to places, and work that you want to be doing, and not settling between mediocre choices.


Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is an executive job search and leadership coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for and

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Accepting or Declining a Job Offer: Seeing Things as They Are

I have a friend who I’ll call “Sal” for the purpose of this article who has been in sales for almost a million years and almost 30 with his current firm. He’s good at what he does but, now that he is in his 60’s, started to have the bug about looking for a new job selling a product instead of a service as he has been doing.

One of his clients approached him about a job selling their “new whizbang software” and Sal met with them several times . . . the CEO, the CFO, one of the Board members. He was going to meet several of them for one final meeting at which time he was going to receive a job offer.

“During the last 9 months, how many hot leads have you generated?”


“What are your expectations of me when I come on?

“Sell one per month.”

“How many have you closed so far?”


“OK. Let me make sure I understand this correctly (he repeated the last few items of the dialogue).


“OK. Two things. It takes longer than a few weeks for counsel to go through the contract and try to negotiate better terms and, secondly, we’re about to enter the fourth quarter when calendar year companies firm up their budgets for the following year and no one has already put this into the budget. How do you expect someone to sign a contract?”

“Thank you very much but you want miracles, not a salesman; I’m going back to work.” And he left.

I’m sharing this story because too often people have unrealistic expectations. They see things through tinted lenses as they want to see things, rather than as they are.

Sal took the time to create a relationship with several friends who he went to for advice before accepting the proposal who all viewed it from a different perspective.


He saw things as they were, not as he hoped they would be!

By being clear, Sal was able to avoid a disaster that he could ill afford.


Not enough people do that.© The Big Game Hunter, Inc. Asheville, NC  2010

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