I recorded the answer earlier but the audio didn’t work. Since, I lost the original question I’m working from memory. The follow-up to the question involve the individual experiencing anxiety and leaving jobs for that reason.
Should I hide my dates of employment?
I misplaced the original email I received but, as I recall, this person seems to be a student and would take on jobs while they were in school And would quit when they start to feel anxiety. “Too much on their plate,” is how I tend to interpret anxiety at this stage in life. I divided the question into 2 parts: The 1st 1 is, “should I hide my dates of employment.”A good or average interviewer is going to think that (1) You are hiding something (They are right. You are hiding something) and (2) they are going to follow up by asking you the actual dates.
Thus, you are better served by providing the actual dates and offering explanations for why you left. For example,you might list all the firms that you work for ( this assumes that this is while you’re in school), listing all the dates that you were employed in these various jobs, Then underneath it say something to the effect of, “I would leave when my school requirements Became more of a priority. Rather than do my job halfway and get mediocre grades, I focused on school but needed to earn a living so I would work and quit when my schedule became too overwhelming.”
That becomes an easy way that you can explain it. If my memory is right about this anxiety issue, the more important thing for you is not interviewing for jobs with the work will make you anxious. How do you do that? There are a number of ways.
Do informational interviews about the field of work to find out that this is something that can provoke you. You don’t need to have anxiety. When I think of anxiety I think of “overload.” Your circuits are fried. Rather than putting too much stress on the system, you modulate the stress.
Now, to be clear, I don’t think it’s possible to have a stress free life. However, what you can do is work in professions that interest you, motivate you, cause you to get excited about going to work and that usually is the kind of stress that people can handle. A lot of organizations will ask you to expand from your comfort zone which is a good thing. You will learn to handle more and do more things. You don’t want to spend the next 40 years of your life doing the same thing, do you? Of course, not! You’ll learn to handle more and, thus, find that There is things that cause you anxiety may dissipate.
Get supports in place, whether it’s a counselor, a coach and/or a therapist so you have a way of sorting things through as things come up for you. After all, life is not without challenge. In that challenge, you are likely to feel some anxiousness. As a result, is it better to have someone that you are working with than not.
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