Ep 605 Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter discusses a few things you can do to manage a bruised ego, particularly if you are an executive.
I want to talk to many of you but, in particular, senior executives about mobilizing your strengths after you lose your job.
1 of the hard things for a lot of execs is that the ego has gotten bruised when they lose a job. Your self-esteem, your identity, your place in the world is lost with your job. You feel embarrassed. Many things feel as though they are out of control. You've gotten used to making decisions, big decisions that may affect thousands of people, millions of dollars, and now your biggest decision is where to go for coffee in the morning.
I just want to offer you some simple advice. This is true, certainly, whether you're a senior executive or staff level person but, here, I am reaching out to the senior professionals.
1. Maintain as best you can your usual routine and your way of life with your family.
I know this once counters to some things I have said previously but, if you have the wherewithal to maintain your financials, even though you may be out of work for what may be a year, do so. If you are not sure, start making the cuts early, but try not to affect others all that dramatically. There are trivial things in your expense budget at home that you can deal with. Try to deal with those. The major things like, where the kids are in school, your mortgage… You may start examining what it might take to refinance or pull money out of your house. Obviously, those are not ideal circumstances but it's good to have that information and plan for how to manage your finances.
2. Look for ways to maintain your worth outside of your job.
Whether it is in the places that you volunteer, in training that you get that will help you maintain your position in your field, do things along those lines.
3. Try learning some new things.
Learn to take small steps.
4. Learn to ask for support.
I know that's a tough one for most of you. I was at 1 of these men's retreats I am involved with at a conference center recently, 1 of the things I found fascinating was watching men struggle to ask for help from people who love them dearly and helped them for many years but just asking for help was a struggle. I suspect that will beast the same of you, too.
Reach out to folks. Tell them you could use some help, some advice, some input and some support. You will find that people are more than willing to help and will go out of their way to do so.
Do you really think employers are trying to help you?
You already know you can’t trust recruiters—they tell you as much as they think you need to know to take the job they after representing so they collect their payday.
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