Career Mistakes: Not Paying Attention to The Tea Leaves (VIDEO)

 

Sometimes we make dumb mistakes when managing your career. In this video I discussed one that I headed off someone from making.

 

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and leadership coaching.

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There Is More Than One Way (VIDEO)


Although we like to think of our way as being the best, in fact, there are many very good ways to do something. I was reminded of this. After doing an interview with Mac Prichard of “Find Your Dream Job.”

Summary

The title of this video is, "There Is More Than One Way." The full expression is one that I didn't want to encourage which is why did make it the title of the video is "there is more than one way to skin a cat."

I hate the expression. I used to be a cat owner in the past; I had 9 of them. I don't want to do anything that suggests that might endorse the kind of behavior.

The saying came to mind after appearing on Mac Prichard's podcast, "Find Your Dream Job." Mac is a very even keeled man from Oregon. He runs several businesses, but the one that relates here is Mac's List. He makes information available to a community of people, puts on a podcast and helps job hunters. He charges employers to post positions and offers a number of services as well.

I came onto his podcast appeared with my usual energy. For those of you watch or listen to me for any length of time, I am not a calm and collected individual like Mac is on the air. Most of the time of the high-energy New York type personality. I don't live in New York anymore so I can't claim to be a New Yorker. I live in Asheville, North Carolina now. That kind of case is much more akin to my personality now. When I get on someone else's show. I crank it up to where it was in the old days.

Mac was very gracious. He loved my interview as did his team. He was kind enough to write a review of my 2 podcasts; I reciprocated by writing a review of his show, not out of obligation, but because it's good.

I wrote back to him as we exchanged pleasantries and said, "It is very obvious that we have different personalities and that's okay. We approach this, me with my energy which tends to be high-octane and high energy and you with you more even keeled approach AND they both work."

I think as we get on in life, we tend to believe that we are right because it works for us. We tend to apply that "knowledge" to other people and other situations. We keep thinking our way is right. Our way is the best way because it works for us. We try to apply it to other people and other situations. So we keep thinking our way is right and we are right and it just leaves us unhappy when we don't get our way. And when others see things differently. We can become like infants throwing a tantrum.

Let me simply say that this was a great reminder for me that there is more than one way to approach a situation. Mac show is terrific, but it is not the show that I would put on. When I did a 30 minute interview show, mine fit my personality; his fits his. We each serve different audiences and he does a great job.

Think of it from that perspective, that your way is not always "the right way." Your way is not always "the perfect way." There are many ways that the message can get out to people. You can help folks, make a living, and be successful.

This is a good lesson I thought I would share.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and leadership coaching.

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.

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No BS Coaching Advice February 28 2017

The February 28, 2017 issue of “No BS Coaching Advice Ezine

 

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and leadership coaching.

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.

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You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle for $.99 and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.”

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Are you interested in executive job search coaching, leadership coaching or life coaching from me?  Email me at JeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us and put the word, “Coaching” in the subject line.

The Box and The Buffet (VIDEO)


People try to define people based upon nonsense and fantasy. Here I try to encourage you to break out of the limitations but not fill your plate so fully that you get nothing done.

Summary

call this video, "The Box and The Buffet;" you'll understand why in a minute. I've done a previous video called, "The Box" about the conditioning that we receive from the time that we are small. It's about the conditioning of the school system in the workforce that tries to define us in particular ways.

For example, in the school system, we are told, "shut up. Do what you're told. Regurgitate a bunch of stuff or else…" It progresses to, "or else you will get into a good school." "Or else you'll get a good job." Eventually, you get a good job and one day you're fired. Even though you did good work and wonder whether that's all there is.

The box also goes on in different ways. It goes on and is part perpetuated by people and their expectations of you. For example, if I sent to you (I'll use my own experience and my old profession of recruiting as an example), there's a certain expectation attitude that people have when they hear the term "recruiter." If I describe someone is being Italian or Irish or black or Latino or a programmer or an accountant or a developer, they live in a particular place that is either a place for other less successful people or more successful people live in, on and on and on. We attach certain expectations onto people based upon nonsense. I can only call it that because we don't know the person.

We start to assume that they are poorly educated. We start to assume that they behave in certain ways. Even though we know nothing about them. I want to encourage you (1) not to take this stuff on and to be yourself with all your loudness or quietness, to be "multi-passionate" if that is how you feel . Sometimes people have the expectation (I use another stereotype here) that the programmer will be a certain personality type and may instead be "loud and boisterous," or love to cook. They possess all these different qualities that are different than what people's expectations are of them. Like someone being Irish, and something else. Black and something else. Don't take it on! I want to wake some of you up and point out that you put these labels onto people, but these expectations onto people based upon pure fantasy on your part. On the other hand, for individuals,

On the other hand, for individuals, there is the example of the buffet. Once you start to rebel from some of the stereotypes that are being templated on to you to make it convenient for others but where they don't see you, I want to encourage you that, like at the buffet, you take on as much on your plate as you can actually eat. Not to try to do so much that you are unsuccessful at all of it by your definition. One thing I do know is that a glutton becomes beyond satiated. A plate with so much food that you can't eat it becomes unpleasant because you feel unfulfilled.

I want to encourage you to have all your passions and work on them and enjoy them but not take on so many of them that you take on too many of them and accomplish none of them. Sometimes, that will take coaching to support you with that.

Some of us, myself included, have lots of different passions and things that we enjoy and things that float our boat. Sometimes I need to slow myself down and get encouragement to do that or also take on so much that I get nothing done.

Bring a coach into your life. Let me help you... Or pick someone else.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for JobSearchCoachingHQ.com and NoBSCoachingAdvice.com

Follow him at The Big Game Hunter, Inc. on LinkedIn for more articles, videos and podcasts than what are offered here and jobs he is recruiting for.

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Run to It, Not From It (VIDEO)


There is a quality that people run from WAY too often. People should run to it, not from it.

Summary

It fascinates me, who, over the course of my life, there has been one word that has been turned into a negative for which there is nothing wrong with it. The word is ambition.

When did ambition become a curse word that we are supposed to avoid? When did become bad to be ambitious?

I'm sure some people respond by saying that so many ambitious people do it on the backs of others. Yes, that is true. And so many ambitious people do it WITH others. So many ambitious people work hard and are driven to be successful, and are motivated to be effective so that they can achieve what their hearts really want them to, instead of allowing corporations and others to kind of make them sway in the wind, kind of like the leaf at the end of the movie, "Forrest Gump," that goes every which way.

Ambition is a quality to be adored, respected and encouraged, not hidden from. Unfortunately, culturally, at least in the US, I think ambition has been deleted from the vocabulary as something not to aspire to, or want.

Huge mistake.

It starts off internally by knowing what really "floats your boat." It is about knowing what makes sense for you, knowing what your aspirations are and working toward them.

Yes, there are people who will lie, cheat, steal to get ahead. You don't have to be that person and be ambitious. You can be a person who cares for others and has the ambition to help others and also wants to be successful professionally… That becomes ambition, too.

I encourage you – – don't run away! Acknowledge your ambitious qualities. Don't keep them hidden from yourself. Aspire to fulfill them. Work to fulfill them. Don't treat it like it's a disease to be eradicated.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for JobSearchCoachingHQ.com and NoBSCoachingAdvice.com

Follow him at The Big Game Hunter, Inc. on LinkedIn for more articles, videos and podcasts than what are offered here and jobs he is recruiting for.

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No BS Coaching Advice February 21 2017

The February 21, 2017 addition of No BS Coaching Advice E-zine

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No BS Coaching Advice February 14 2017

The February 14, 2017 addition of No BS Coaching Advice.

 

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and leadership coaching.

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.

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Connect with me on LinkedIn

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle for $.99 and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.”

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

Are you interested in executive job search coaching, leadership coaching or life coaching from me?  Email me at JeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us and put the word, “Coaching” in the subject line.

Networking As Part of Your Repertoire (VIDEO)


Why are some people successful? This is the first in a series of videos that will explain exactly that.

Summary

I wanted to do a video today that talks about networking but I didn't want to do it from the standpoint of you is a job hunter but talking with you about it from the vantage point of why it's important.

People seem to do networking only when they have a crisis and fail to build relationships. You decide you want to look for a job so you go out networking. Maybe you're having a problem in your business so you decide to go out networking. Instead of creating the capital when you don't have a need that allows you to reach out and not project likely needy or mooching off of people or things along those lines. It really isn't that hard.

Here's my suggestion and the reason for it. The suggestion is that if you are 30 or 40 or 50, certainly, you remember that there were people 15 years ago who you are not in contact with. Here's what I want you to do – – I want you to start reaching out to them. Don't know how to do it? Find them on LinkedIn. Find them on Facebook. Reach out to them! Do a Google search. Remember what town they lived in? Where they used to work a million years ago? You can find them.

Drop them a note or pick up the phone and call them and simply say, "hi!" And pick up where you left off when you last spoke with them. You see, we all know networking is important, but don't make time for it. That's what successful people do. They network all the time. It's not like they are doing it every day or every week. But every few weeks to pick up the phone and call.

As I coach executive job hunters, 1 of the things that is so obvious to me is that the network of relationships that they have built up provides them with a huge amount of capital that allows them to make the transitions professionally much more easily. I want to say that it's easy but they have relationships that they can call on and, as is often said in job search, it's not who you know. But it's who the people you know know (I know that's an awkward sentence but pause after the 1st "know.") It is not your 1st level connection but the one after that.

So, with that, I just want to encourage you to develop the habit of reintroducing yourself to people so that you can really cultivate the relationship. It's not like you need to do much more than go, "Hi! How are you? It has been a long time. Your name popped into my mind this morning and I just want to get reconnected." Remember, this includes clergy, former colleagues, people you went to school with, grew up with, everyone in your life is something you can network with because you just don't know.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for JobSearchCoachingHQ.com and NoBSCoachingAdvice.com

Follow him at The Big Game Hunter, Inc. on LinkedIn for more articles, videos and podcasts than what are offered here and jobs he is recruiting for.

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For more No BS Coaching Advice & encouragement, visit my website.

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Our Love-Hate Relationship With Asking for Help (VIDEO)


I conducted an experiment on Facebook about asking for help. What goes on for you?

Summary

I conducted an interesting (it was at least interesting to me into a number of other people) experiment on Facebook over a few day period. It started off with a question, "What is so hard about saying,' I need help to someone who can help you?' I think that's a pretty simple question, but here are some of the responses:

"The ego."
"Pride."
"I'm not sure what the circumstances were that you are referring to but maybe, just maybe, the person was maligned and abused the last time they asked for help."
"I feel like the more help I need the harder it is to ask."
"Even harder for men. My wife is trying to get me to ask for directions when we are lost."
"Maybe those who need us the most want us to just help them.
"Stupidity, plain and simple." Stupidity was my answer
"it exposes the answer I tell myself, true or not, that there is something wrong with me."

I want to go into question number 2 because, obviously, because there is the perception that something is faulty with the person who asks for help that seems to be ingrained in our culture. That's generally what is happening.

People didn't ask for help because of pride, ego, they felt stupid and other reasons that keep them from getting the help that they need.

How do you feel when you ask for help? This is interesting! Among the answers were:

"Fearful, may be desperate."
"Oh, G-d! When I was younger I knew everything I didn't think I needed any help. WRONG! Now that I'm an elder. I know that there are those who are wiser than me and can ask for their help."
"Weak. I should know it all and be able to do it all."
DING DING! DING! DING DING! I think that's the real thing.
"Humble and helpful." There were few of these in there that I thought were interesting.

"What a great question! At the depth I feel vulnerable and incompetent. I think we have this conflict that goes on within us."

I think this summarizes it very well. A woman named Judy said, "it's like I'm not worthy and time inconveniencing someone."

It's as though we screwed up or are defective in some way. We might be rebuked. There are some people who might feel hopeful and that's wonderful but the vast majority don't have that sort of reaction. The result is that many of us live a particular way, frustrated, disappointed.

How do you win? We don't know everything. We don't know what to do all the time. We do make mistakes and screw up. As a result, we don't do things to make it easy for ourselves.

Easy is an interesting word in this context because, obviously, if you're asking for help (judging by the reactions I 1st spoke about – – fearful, scared, defective, stupid), it is not so easy. Shouldn't it just be easy to look at someone and say, "I ask you something for a second?" If they say,, "no, it's not a good time right now," you can always ask what it might be a good time. That's what usually happens, right? Emotionally, we get caught up in this turmoil.

I love you to take a little bit of time to reflect on this for yourself and just think about what the impact is not asking for help and how that has worked for you and not work for you. Worked for you in the way of feeling more capable than you really are. I admit it. I am incompetent at a lot of things, far more than I'd like to admit. But I know I am incompetent at a lot of stuff.

I would love you to consider that once you've admit it is far easier for yourself, it is far easier to receive that help an act without it.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for JobSearchCoachingHQ.com and NoBSCoachingAdvice.com

Follow him at The Big Game Hunter, Inc. on LinkedIn for more articles, videos and podcasts than what are offered here and jobs he is recruiting for.

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For more No BS Coaching Advice & encouragement, visit my website.

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No BS Coaching Advice Ezine February 7 2017

The February 7 2017 edition of No BS Coaching Advice Ezine

 

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and leadership coaching.

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions. 

Start Your Free 7 Day Trial of JobSearchCoachingHQ.com

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You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle for $.99 and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.”

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

Are you interested in executive job search coaching, leadership coaching or life coaching from me?  Email me at JeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us and put the word, “Coaching” in the subject line.

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