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No BS Coaching Advice Ezine | May 15 2017

The May 15, 2017 issue of No BS Coaching Advice E-zine

 

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and business life coaching. He is the host of “Job Search Radio” and “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” both available through iTunes and Stitcher.

Are you interested in executive job search coaching, leadership coaching or life coaching from me?  Email me at JeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us and put the word, “Coaching” in the subject line.

Do you have a question you would like me to answer? Pay $25 via PayPal to TheBigGameHunter@gmail.com  

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedIn. Like me on Facebook.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle for $.99 and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.”

What Seeds Are You Sowing? (VIDEO)


A friend posted a Facebook message about gardening that was a wonderful question about networking.

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Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and business life coaching. He is the host of “Job Search Radio” and “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” both available through iTunes and Stitcher.

Are you interested in executive job search coaching, leadership coaching or life coaching from me?  Email me at JeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us and put the word, “Coaching” in the subject line.

Do you have a question you would like me to answer? Pay $25 via PayPal to TheBigGameHunter@gmail.com  

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedIn. Like me on Facebook.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle for $.99 and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.”

The Case for Coaching (VIDEO)


Why should someone hire a coach? You make the case for why someone should, what are you trying to build your business, improve your life, change jobs or take some other form of action.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for JobSearchCoachingHQ.com and NoBSCoachingAdvice.com

Follow him at The Big Game Hunter, Inc. on LinkedIn for more articles, videos and podcasts than what are offered here and jobs he is recruiting for.

Are you interested in my coaching you? Email me at JeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us
and put the word, “Coaching” in the subject line.

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It Starts With Courage

With appreciation to Lance Secretan

 

I remember my first day of kindergarten many years ago at PS 90 in The It Starts With CourageBronx, NY. My mother was an immigrant who spoke accented English, taking me to class two blocks from our apartment on The Grand Concourse. She and my teacher walked me to my desk and offered me the loveliest look that I could imagine. My mother told me that she would be back a little later to pick me up and that my teacher would be looking out for me.

After a while, I learned another lesson. The lesson was that if I were to succeed in school, my job was to shit up, do what I was told, regurgitate a bunch of things when I was told to do it . . . OR ELSE I wouldn’t get into a good college.

Some years later, I attended CCNY in Harlem. I attended my classes and lectures but quickly learned that the lesson of college I was being given was, “Shut up. Do what you are told. Regurgitate a bunch of stuff when we tell you OR ELSE,” I won’t get a good job.

And when I found my job in recruiting upon graduation, I learned a similar lesson– “Shut up. Do what you are told. Regurgitate a bunch of It Starts With Couragestuff when we tell you OR ELSE . . . “We’ll fire you! Is it any wonder that we live in times where people seem puzzled when they dedicate themselves to their employer, do their best and eventually are brought into a conference room and laid off. I have listened to many executives and staff alike lament about having done a great job and feeling betrayed.

“I did a great job!”

“My reviews were uniformly exceptional”

I keep hearing my own voice complaining about getting an B in a class when I thought I deserved an A. There was nothing I could say that would get the grade changed but I was seeking approval from an instructor who disagreed with my view of my work.

Yes, we all have bosses and teachers who evaluate our work. As a headhunter, I reported to the clients who paid me (and job hunters who didn’t pay me thought I reported to them), as well as to a business owner who demanded perfection from my work that was never achievable.

But the truth was I forgot the most important person who was part of my org structure.

Me.

You see, I fell prey to all the industrial conditioning I had received growing up wanting me to be “cooperative” or “a team player.” I lost track of myself with the push to be selfish in order to achieve sales goals (actual sales goals and, before that, grades).  I succumbed to the motivation (the external pressure to comply with institutions and systems that were making sausage) of the systems I lived and worked in and lost my inspiration (the internal desire, independent of external pressure for conformity).

I became a high achiever who really didn’t care but did great work. I became someone who kept looking for unique ways to do what I did differently than others yet still meet my performance goals.

I hated it because all I was doing was making “artisanal sausage” and not doing what I really wanted. Maybe that willingness to sacrifice is part of being adult. I just never really found the correct percentage of sacrifice vs. self-satisfaction.

I hope you have.

I was introduced to Lance Secretan and a model he has called, “The CASTLE® Principles

Courage

Authenticity

Service

Truthfulness

Love

Effectiveness.

 

Castle.

 

For a while, I wrestled with the idea of authenticity and truthfulness being redundant terms until I grew to see that authenticity was internal truthfulness or being genuine whereas truthfulness was how I might relate with the world at large.

However, as in the word, “Castle,” It truly does start with courage. It takes courage to face oneself and change.        It’s why I now coach instead of headhunt.

As a headhunter, I found too many instances where my truthfulness was encouraged to be compromised and, thus, my truthfulness disappear. It was hard to watch a large check evaporate into thin air after doing so much work.

I found not caring about the people I represented or my clients. The love was lost in what I did and in the people I was hired to serve.

As a result, my effectiveness started to wane, all because I lacked the courage to change.

 

It started with courage and the desire to live life on my terms according to these principles. I can help you, too.

 

© The Big Game Hunter, Inc. Asheville, NC  2017        

 

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunterwhat seems like one hundred years. His work involves executive job search coaching, business life coaching for self-employed people who have a lunatic for a boss and leadership coaching. He is the host of “Job Search Radio” and “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” both available through iTunes and Stitcher.

Are you interested in coaching from me?  Email me atJeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us and put the word, “Coaching” in the subject line.

Do you have a question you would like me to answer? Pay $25 via PayPal to TheBigGameHunter@gmail.com  

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.

Connect with me on LinkedIn. Like me on Facebook.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle for $.99 and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.”

 

Self-Sabotage: A Misdiagnosis (VIDEO)


I wrote an article last week about how self sabotage by job hunters is mislabeled that was viewed by many, many people. I decided to look at this more broadly than job hunters and look at how it affects self-employed people and entrepreneurs alike.

Summary

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” - Alexander Graham Bell

I wrote an article for my website that I also published on LinkedIn that spoke to job hunters about how they often incorrectly blame self-sabotage as a cause of their failures. I want to extend my thinking here to include entrepreneurs, freelancers, self-employed individuals and others who are leaders and complain to themselves about how they sabotage themselves at critical junctures.

When I spoke to job hunters, I pointed out that so much of what is referred to as self-sabotage comes from lack of preparedness. They forget that the skills needed to find a job are different but complement those needed to do a job. This their ignorance of how to job hunt, write a quality resume, brand and market themselves, interview and negotiate are often indicative of that and not of self-sabotage. It is the fact that they don’t know what needs to be done in an environment where all information is almost every piece of information is available that comes back to haunt them that dooms them to failure.

However, for entrepreneurs, freelancers, self-employed people and other business leaders what often happens is a little different. It all starts with the courage to step out of their comfort zone and do something they have never done before.

You are someone who is willing to try, rather than accept the role you are in now and, if you are like most entrepreneurs I know, you are willing to take a chance having thought it out, lost sleep, asked for advice and the opinions of those close to you before having this misstep. You courageously took a chance and it didn’t work. Now your thoughts punish you for being “incompetent,” “stupid,” “foolish and worse.

This is not evidence of “self-sabotage” or some “psychological defect.” It doesn’t make you “a choker,” “a loser” or “a failure.” Instead, it makes you someone who tried and who would not accept the status quo in your life and/or business.

We watch athletes who fail in the big game or the big match and return the following year to win. How did they do that.

Self-employed people decide to get out of their comfort zone. You may be world class at what you do now but you are a rookie at the new thing you want to try. Getting out of your comfort zone takes courage. Good for you. View this new idea as an experiment. Edison failed at the light bulb 1000+ times. Alexander Graham Bell failed many times, too.

Self-employed people learn they are close but not ready. Organization and talent are only a part of the equation to be a winner. Often, it takes experience being in the arena that is required. Yes, there are teams and players who win the first time but many don’t. You are very good but that isn’t enough in sports or in business. Michael Jordan and his teams were incredibly talented. So were the Detroit Pistons, Golden State Warriors and others. They learned from the experiences they had losing in the playoffs.

Self-employed people adapt to what they learned from the experience. Losing a title, losing a big match is incredibly painful. You spend an entire season in order to play on the big stage and you came up a little short. For you, it is time to dissect the lessons from the experience and start to put them into practice. The first time it may feel awkward and unfamiliar but, with practice, you get better and internalize the lessons and the changes.

Self-employed people risk failure again until they win . . or give up. No one likes to lose but you cannot win without risking another losing. Sometimes, people and teams fail repeatedly. They get up and try again until they win or their spirit is broken and they quit.

Self-employed people get help. Great athletes and entertainers all have coaches. Successful business people usually do, too. And you are trying to do this on your own with no advice from anyone other than yourself. Not smart. Coaching offers extra eyes on your problems and the ability for someone who is outside the immediate circle to look at the issues and recommend change. Hire a coach to work with.

This brings me back to self-sabotage. For you who are self-employed, freelancing, entrepreneurs and leading small businesses. You usually are not engaged in this “deep psychological drive to subvert your success. You are learning more about what you need to know in order to be successful.

Winners find the way to win. They battle back from individual defeats to see them as opportunities to learn, practice getting better and winning. It is not lack of talent or self-sabotage that causes their defeats. It is inexperience that does.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and business life coaching. He is the host of “Job Search Radio” and “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” both available through iTunes and Stitcher.

Are you interested in executive job search coaching, leadership coaching or life coaching from me?  Email me at JeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us and put the word, “Coaching” in the subject line.

Do you have a question you would like me to answer? Pay $25 via PayPal to TheBigGameHunter@gmail.com  

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedIn. Like me on Facebook.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle for $.99 and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.”

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

It Doesn’t Have to Be So Hard (VIDEO)


An interview with Kareem Abdul-Jabbar about his time trying to coach Michael Olowokandi is the basis for this video. It really doesn’t have to be so hard.

Summary

I was watching ESPN yesterday at one point, and Kareem Abdul-Jabbar, the former great Laker and Bucks center, They got into a conversation that I think stemmed from the fact that Celtics basketball player, Isaiah Thomas,Was getting some advice and support from Kobe Bryant, another great retired Laker. I think part of the premise of the show was "Lakers-Celtics. These 2 teams and hated one another. Why is Kobe helping a Celtic?" Then it evolved into something much more pertinent.

Kareem, who if you is not the best was certainly 1 of the best Centers in the history of professional basketball,Told the story about how at one point he was asked to coach the number 1 draft pick Of the San Diego Clippers Whose name was, "Michael Olowokandi." Olowokandi was a talented individual, 23 years old and had been playing basketball for about 3 years. He was "a project." They knew he would need help when they drafted him and thought that Kareem would be a great person to help him. After all, you would have 1 of the greats teaching all the little tricks To help make him into a great player.

Olowokandi didn't want to hear it.

What consistently happened was that Olowokandi would consistently get into foul trouble and sit on the bench. You might commit turnovers and wind up being taken out of games. Instead of having a long career like Jabbar had, He was out of the lake in 5 years. He was a colossal bust.

What's the point of all this?

For you, most of you are trying to figure it out as you go along. I don't care if it is in job search, in your career, I don't care whatever part of your life it is, I want if you try to figure things out through trial and error.

It doesn't have to be that hard.

You don't have to do it that way. What you can do is get some help, Someone to coach you in order to perform at a better level.Whether it's in job search in your work, in your career, sometimes the best way to facilitate the change that you need in order to become who you want to become, Is with a coach, you can watch you, listen to you, observe you, notice you. Is someone who you can speak to regularly about your "stuff" and help you sorted through so that they can accelerate your development, offer extra eyes and ears on your situation, Advance your life in advance your career.

The choice is yours. You can keep hitting your head against the wall and, yes, it does hurt and you become numb to the pain. There's no reason to have to do that. Among the goals in life is to be as successful as possible and as happy as possible in as easy a way as possible.

Get some coaching. Get some help. Get some advice. It doesn't have to be so hard. Don't allow yourself to be washed out of the league.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for JobSearchCoachingHQ.com and NoBSCoachingAdvice.com

Follow him at The Big Game Hunter, Inc. on LinkedIn for more articles, videos and podcasts than what are offered here and jobs he is recruiting for.

Connect with me on LinkedIn

Follow The Big Game Hunter, Inc.

For more No BS Coaching Advice & encouragement, visit my website.

Ready to schedule your first coaching call?

Weeds (VIDEO)


Seeing a photo a friend posted, I talk about how small business owners can use an ally.

Summary

A friend of mine posted something on Facebook today-- I picture of a weed coming up through the stone on the path. It was a resilient hearty weed.

What I think of a lot of smart self-employed people, their working really hard and trying really hard and created a really demanding job from which they are hitting their heads against the wall. Their lives are suffering and all they know is what they're doing, like a weed, they stand proudly in the path,surrounded, not paying attention to any the signals in the path that say to it, "You know, we really don't want you here." Like the defiant old man raging against the storm, they keep raging against the heavens, trying.

In US business, we tend to idolize these people but at the same time there are a lot of deficiencies that show up for them, there's a lot of suffering they go through. If you're 1 of the self-employed people who is going through that, I will simply say that you don't have to do it by yourself. There are ways that you can work with a coach (by the way, I would be happy to help you) to help you sort things through so that maybe it doesn't have to be so hard, difficult, painful, or take as long as it does.

Maybe there are some tweaks may be some tweaks along the way. Maybe radical change.. Maybe there is something within you that maybe you could be looking at differently the make life more secure and pleasant for you.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for JobSearchCoachingHQ.com and NoBSCoachingAdvice.com

Follow him at The Big Game Hunter, Inc. on LinkedIn for more articles, videos and podcasts than what are offered here and jobs he is recruiting for.

Connect with me on LinkedIn

Follow The Big Game Hunter, Inc.

For more No BS Coaching Advice & encouragement, visit my website.

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No BS Coaching Advice Ezine April 11 2017

The April 11, 2017 issue  of No BS Coaching Advice Ezine

 

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and business life coaching.

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.

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Are you interested in executive job search coaching, leadership coaching or life coaching from me?  Email me at JeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us and put the word, “Coaching” in the subject line.

Wasted (VIDEO)


Aaron Hernandez and his suicide awakened a reminder for me and hopefully for you.

Summary

Recently, I heard the news of Aaron Hernandez dying by suicide. My 1st reaction was what a waste. Use someone with so much – – championship football player. Maybe you'll notice this at some point when his name disappears but he was an All-Pro tight and the New England Patriots on championship teams, a great player who had a dark side where he was convicted of murdering someone, found innocent of murdering two other people, but still a convicted murderer. He was in prison when he killed himself.

I thought to myself, "What a waste to a life." He was a football player. What you getting all dramatic about?" I respect that opinion of yours. However, think for yourselves and the number of people who waste their lives in so many ways. Putting aside Hernandez, even though he is the trigger for my thinking here, so many people waste their lives doing meaningless things, purposeless things and getting fixated on the ridiculous, the nonsensical… You can see it every day online where you can see a discussion where people are arguing back and forth will never impact change. They will never change the mind of another person online and they will never affect public policy and get them to change their position.

I think of those folks and the people who sit in front of the TV or computer screen all day just doing the same thing, day in and day out , whose brains and lives are being sucked dry. They don't notice that they have been turned into factory workers (no disrespect to factory workers) like in the 19th-century, producing mindless drivel.

How many of us waste our lives that way?

I know there was a point when I was still working in recruiting and I came to realize how much I detested being put in the position by large corporations of passing on their pablum to job hunters and taking the heat for communicating what a large corporation wanted me to do.

Why?

For you folks there, when you look at your jobs and look at your lives, why? Why are you doing this? Could you have done better? I'm not criticizing you, but stopped for a moment and ask yourself , can you do better? What dream, what hope, what aspiration are you putting aside just for the sake of the check?

Again, I like checks! Checks are a great thing! But what aren't you doing that you could also be doing? What dream are you not living out because you being sucked dry? Don't put it aside because you never know when that day comes where your life ends. I'm not talking about suicide, just the fact that one day your life is going to end. Why put inside a moment longer? Why not take the shot, and do achieve really wanted to do, even if it's on the side and just go for it?,

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for JobSearchCoachingHQ.com and NoBSCoachingAdvice.com

Follow him at The Big Game Hunter, Inc. on LinkedIn for more articles, videos and podcasts than what are offered here and jobs he is recruiting for.

Connect with me on LinkedIn

Follow The Big Game Hunter, Inc.

For more No BS Coaching Advice & encouragement, visit my website.

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Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and business life coaching.

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.

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