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Why Do So Many Employers and New Employees Become Disappointed Once They Join a New Company?

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I have addressed the subject in different places before. Here I tackle it directly.


I received a great question that I've answered indirectly for a long time. So, as to the question pointedly today, so let me use it as my subject.

'What is somebody employers and new employees become disappointed wants to join the new company?"

To me, this is very very easy. It's also the fact that both sides, both employers and employees forget 1 of the basic truths of job hunting and hiring. The basic truth is that everyone is on good behavior.

The employer was presenting things in a good light; their subordinates are presenting things in a good light. The job hunter is putting on a "happy smile button face." They are showing the credentials as being exquisite and perfect.

In other words, everyone is lying.

Everyone is lying because they are not telling you what is wrong.

For example, I've never heard of the job hunter say, "You know, I get cranky unless I have a chocolate bar by 4 o'clock each day. Sometimes that crankiness pisses off my coworkers." It's never happened! No employer has ever talked about those last for people who sat at the desk. They want you to sit at and why they quit. Never happens.

Even if you have asked them about what happened to the person using the job before, they will talk about going onto another opportunity without discussing where the failure was. They will never say, "You know, I pissed them off. They got annoyed with my constantly needling them about getting things done on time and within budget." Or, "They kept running away with stuff that got me annoyed and eventually, blew my stack at them." No one ever says that.

Thus, that lie that both sides tell becomes the seed of the eventual discontent.

There is a statistic that says that within a year of a hire, employers have buyers remorse and judge a higher as being a mis-hire. Job hunters are no different. That's where the seat of the soul lies. Everyone is presenting themselves in the best light and no one is being completely honest about what they are stepping into. No job hunters ever told, "Do you see that woman over there? I have no idea what they work here. I can't fire them." Or, "she gets on everyone's nerves." Or, "he's a jackass." No one ever says that.

No job hunter ever talks about how he was the jackass or how he annoys everyone and his current firm that they have suggested he start looking elsewhere. There can provide a great reference because they don't want him around.

So, understand that the problem stems from the fact that each side is lying. Worse than that, each side looking for "a good fit." How will you ever know that someone will be a good fit. If each side is trying to deceive one another?

That's what I see.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and business life coaching. He is the host of “Job Search Radio,” “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.”

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Sometimes, You Don’t Use the Whip | No BS Coaching Advice

Most managers tend to use a whip


I was reminded recently that sometimes managers have one mode of operating-- they beat their employees into submission. They take the spirit away from them. They punish them unless they are perfect according to their standards. I'm not saying that you should tolerate screw ups. Screw ups need to be corrected. A lot of managers seem to operate in one mode.

I was reminded this week of this behavior in working with a solopreneur that I coach who reminded me of something years ago. I had employee working for me who really wanted to do well. She was a beginner who really want to do well commuting 2 hours each way to our offices from New Jersey. She would make calls at night having a dinner of a slice of pizza that you thrown in the oven, making very little money and wasn't getting the results that she wanted.

I sat her down in my office one day, a few months after she enjoyed. She had been doing this for a few months and was crying. "This is it working! It's awful!" She was really trying and she cared. I sat her down and send her resume going to say to you now, "You are trying too hard. People can hear the desperation in your voice, you don't quite know what you doing it and trying to use incredible effort in order to get things done. It is not working for. What I want you to do is leave a little bit earlier, get home, get some sleep, relax a little bit. PLAY! Have some fun. " She became a great performer for me.

Recently, a solopreneur I have been coaching came to me because business was mediocre, he was in a situation related to sell his firm, sell his lease or handle his lease in some way because he was having financial problems. He was trying to improve his practice but he couldn't get a grip on what to do to change things. We spoke about a number of tactics and eventually implemented a few. Ultimately, the bigger picture was for him to feel good about himself.

No one wants to date someone who seems desperate. No one wants to do business with someone who seems desperate. If you are a manager who is managing people who are trying, but tactics are not working and you need to try new ones.

What triggered this was noticing that on YouTube, there are people who are making a great living by developing content that doesn't teach people anything but it is fun! You know. Fun! People enjoy themselves! They feel better as a result.

You can create stuff. You can create contests. You can create situations where people feel good about themselves, even while you and they are struggling. It doesn't need any money. It can be a 30 minute break while everyone watches YouTube and share his comments. There are millions of possibilities only limited by your imagination.

You need a break, too, just like some of these folks. You can't always be whipping the horse and expecting the horse to respond. Eventually the horse in the race that is being whipped doesn't respond to the whip. The jockey loses them, right? You may be losing some of your employees.

Don't always go to the whip. Fool them. For yourself. Have some fun! Bring the spirit of play into your office again. Stop beating them up. You'll find that if you make a switch, that is not good be instantaneous, if you bring some flexibility to your response, they can't anticipate when you're going to say, "Oh. You screwed up!" Because you're not good be constantly beating them up. You're going to be encouraging them to have fun, remind them that they make a mistake how to correct it without punishing them, using awareness that doesn't indicate any judgment on your part.

You can say something along the lines of, "Hey, I know you want to do a good job but I think you messed up in this case. I know you know better, but you might've tried this."

"Yeah yeah yeah. I got it. As soon as I got off the phone with the customer…" You know what it's like. Sometimes we all make mistakes… Even you!

Instead of always bringing out the whip, try things a little bit easier sometimes.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for and He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” “No BS Job Search Advice,” and “Job Search Radio.”

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What is Going to Be Different? (VIDEO)

Too many organizations suffer mediocrity because they have industrialize their workforce and turned them into machine-like disposable commodities.

What is going to be different?


This morning, I was thinking about a workshop I attended many years ago that Tony Robbins gave. In it, he spoke about his Stanford University research study where it identified that people are sold to in a number of different ways.

The study according to Robbins identified a number of different categories that people fall into. There are people longer's, achievers, emulators, societally conscious people, and needs driven people. When you look at modern advertising, you can see that they all fall into 1 of these 5 categories.

Up the longer is someone who wants to be a part of something. Those result in the classic beer commercials where everyone is sitting around the bar having a good time, laughing and joking. They want to be a part of something.

There are the achievers who know they are successful and are sold to in an understated sort of way. There are certain products that are sold to that market.

There are the emulators who want to be achievers but are too young and don't make enough money. They tend to be sold to every commercial where you see a leg get out of the car or see someone who is great looking, staring at you through the camera, that tends to be a commercial geared toward emulators.

Societally conscious individuals are where I am going to focus on today. They don't want to be sold to.. Give me the facts and stop selling to me. The Internet is a great tool for information being delivered to that marketplace.

Needs driven people are poor and there are not a lot of products geared toward them because they don't have enough money to buy much. They are not the focus here. We are going to focus on those people considered "societally conscious."

When we deal with people at work, we tend to deal with them as though "Don't ask me for anything. This is what your job is. Shut up and just do it." We don't say it that way; we just have expectations as though they worked in a factory still, even though they now work at the desk at your offices or at their home office. You treat them as though they are disposable individuals who are going to be measured, analyzed, evaluated, critiqued and punished as though they worked in a 19th-century factory.

Don't believe me? Look at how you deal with people on a day to day basis. Do you really care or are you more concerned about what your boss is going to think about you unless your people do something in particular?

If you're honest, most of you conduct yourself with that factory mentality, where you are worried about the boss upstairs, looking down and penalizing you if your people don't do what they are supposed to do and get the results that they are supposed to get.

The issue comes down to how do you relate to them? How you interact with you people that makes them want to not be factory workers or information workers or whatever kind of 21st-century robot or drudge that you are turning them into.

I will simply say that you are functioning like a "manager." The big mistake you're making is that your managing behavior. Instead of "managing," I want to encourage you to lead, to inspire, to get them excited about their work again.

How do you do that? I don't know your office to give you a convenient handy-dandy ways to the you can just unzip a solution from a plastic bag. (Another industrial solution), shakeup and poor and everything is going to be fine. You have to wake up and do some things differently. Otherwise, your work is going to be tedious, so is their's, you will get best effort from them… And that is really what you want.

For you, you want to feel great going to work instead of the monotony of the bus/the train/the traffic... The "what time can I leave today." You want to love what you do, enjoy it and delight in it and be able to inspire people to feel the same way.

Don't just simply treat them like factory workers in the 19th century. It isn't working; you have to do it differently. . . Or else.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for and

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